The One Question To Ask Yourself To Avoid A Lifetime Of Hell And Grief

Often when people are feeling down, they reach for a cigarette or a drink to wind down and soothe their pain. But what if you knew there was an easier way? What if you knew that all it takes is one question to help you get through life without the weight of guilt, shame and regret on your shoulder, holding you back?

That's why we're writing this blog post. To tell you how all it really takes is just one simple question, and how doing this could be the best decision of your life.

But before we go into this, we want to make it clear. This isn't a generic advice of the type you read everywhere else that's supposed to help you 'deal with your feelings'. It's an in-depth and detailed post about how to build a life where you're no longer held back by your past or failing.

We know from experience. We've both spent years doing the same things in life because we thought it'd make us happy. We thought the 'experience' would help us to become better people. But it didn't.

We've wasted years of our lives. We've gone around in circles, with no fulfilling result or progress, and now we're looking back with regret and shame. We wouldn't wish this on anyone, but it's important that you know exactly how we went from bad to worse:

We started smoking cigarettes and drinking too much alcohol in order to numb the pain of the regret we felt inside because of our mistakes with women when in reality there was nothing we could do about them now.

Eventually we became dependent on these "release" drugs and they took over our lives. We abused them to the point that we had no memory of a time before we'd ever smoked and drank. We couldn't go without them as they were what made our lives worthwhile.

We got hit with PTSD, depression and anxiety disorder as a result of using these substances in such high quantities. We were in desperate need of help but by the time we realized it, our habit was out of control.

We lost friends, relationships and jobs because we simply couldn't kick the habit. This was because every time we tried to quit, the fears we had in our minds came back to haunt us. We'd tell ourselves "we're going to fail" and "life will be worse".

If you're anything like us you might have tried many times to quit before, and found that it simply wasn't enough. You hadn't asked yourself the question that could change everything for you.

We thought we'd be able to give up on our vices at any time because we believed that the answer was inside of us. We told ourselves that it was simply a matter of 'deciding' to quit and then things would be fine. But that wasn't true.

What we discovered later is that there's one question you must ask yourself in order to rid yourself of these chains once and for all. It's what we wish someone had told us before…

Question: What Are You Going To Do About Your Past?

We've been taught to believe in something called "forgiveness". It's the idea that we can simply let go of our past mistakes and start afresh. That if we learn from our experiences we move on from them a better person – but what if that's not true?

Forgiveness is only half of the solution. What you don't realize is that forgiving yourself is pointless unless you do something to improve yourself , and your life, in the present moment. This makes all the difference!

We've found that there are two extreme reactions when referred to as 'meditation'. On one side there are those who think you're an idiot for doing nothing at all and on the other side there are those who think it's some kind of secret key to enlightenment. They're both wrong.

It's not about having a quiet moment to reflect on your past, or seeing what you've learned from it. It's about making the decision right now that you'll never smoke again, or drink alcohol in excess. That you'll never give into your insecurities by becoming weak and fearful of initiating new relationships with people.

No one will ever dishonor you again in this life because they will know that they're nothing but prey to be hunted down and killed by the mighty lion behind them, because they know that they'd be next! The lion doesn't make mistakes!

Now, we understand this may sound harsh.

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