If you've ever tried to achieve something in life and failed, chances are it's because you weren't properly equipped with the right 'tools' to deal with resistance. In this post, we'll show you what those tools are and how they can help make your goals easier to reach.
Learn how to identify different types of resistance, when they rear their ugly heads, what triggers them and why. Understand how these roadblocks might be holding you back from success so that you can take appropriate action.
We'll also help you understand how to tackle resistance in an effective manner. In fact, we'll show you how to use it as a motivational tool that can propel you towards your goals faster!
The word 'resistance' has a bad reputation. People fear it and avoid it at all costs. They see it as a barrier standing between them and success in life. However, the truth is that resistance is what makes the world go 'round! Without it, we'd be living in anarchy with every man for himself! This shows how important resisting can be so let's begin with learning about its many forms.
I'm sure you've come across some people who have this strange ability to get what they want from life. They seem to have everything figured out and are living the life they truly want. They don't play victim, they don't complain and they don't gossip about other people. They just go about their business being happy and fulfilled.
How do such people become successful?
The answer is simple – by mastering resistance.
Resistance comes in many forms like frustration, procrastination, lack of motivation, negative emotions or even the desire to give up. It can be someone who's jealous of you because of what you have or where you are in life. It can be an obstacle that seems impossible to overcome.
It's no wonder why people avoid dealing with it and instead try to run away from it. They fear it and as a result, they don't take action on what they want to achieve.
How do you overcome this problem? After all, overcoming resistance is something that's necessary if you want to become successful in life. This will ensure that your goals get achieved more easily and faster than ever before. It will also allow you to live the life of your dreams!
The key lies in understanding its many faces so you can strategize accordingly. No one knows this better than Anthony Robbins who recently organized his first annual Breakthrough Leadership Conference .
In the event, a group of some of the world's most successful people discussed what resistance is and how to deal with it. These people included business leaders , athletes, entrepreneurs and authors.
Let's take a look at what they had to say.
"There are three kinds of people that you will ever meet in life – winners, losers and those who never give up." – Dr. Anthony Robbins
What do you think is the difference between a loser and a winner?
It's in their minds. They have different visions of what they want from life. The losers don't see any value in winning and even seem to hate it. They're focused on short-term gains, setbacks and losses. The winners, on the other hand, are focused on long-term achievement and happiness. They want to win because they know that losing will only bring more heartache and suffering.
What was the most interesting thing Dr. Robbins said during this event?
"From personal experience, failure is the most liberating thing that can happen." – Dr. Anthony Robbins
He added, "Resistance equals pain. People avoid resistance because they don't want pain."
It is important to keep in mind that resistance isn't bad or negative. In fact, it can be quite positive! If you feel a sense of 'not wanting' something, it's because you're dealing with resistance! If you feel anxious about having to perform a certain task or overcome an obstacle, it's because your ego is resisting the idea of doing so.
The key lies in using the power of resistance for your own success.
Are you a victim of resistance?
You'll notice that the people who have mastered the art of dealing with resistance have a very clear vision of their future. They know what they want from life and know exactly how to achieve it. This is in sharp contrast to the losers who are always complaining about things that don't work or feel stuck.
What makes them so different?
It's in their minds. They don't want to lose and they don't want to fail. By knowing what they don't want, they're able to avoid failure as much as possible. Success isn't easy either so when things don't go their way, they're able to easily bounce back with no lasting negative affect on their psyche.
By doing this, they're easily able to deal with any form of resistance and get what they want.
How to best deal with resistance
You might be wondering how you can use this knowledge to become a longer-lasting winner in life.
In a recent TED talk , Tim Ferriss discussed his own experience as a high school dropout who used self-image and motivation to help him overcome these roadblocks. He then became one of the world's most successful entrepreneurs and would go on to become one of the world's leading experts on lifestyle design.
He explains that the key lies in 'framing' so that you can properly address any form of resistance . Here's how it's done:
"If you don't pay a price for what you want, you can't have it. So if you want to win the fight, you have to be willing to lose the battle." – Tim Ferriss
It's quite simple. If a person wants something, they're going to have to put in the work that it takes to earn it. The reason why some people find it easy while others find it hard is because they're at different levels of their life journey. People who are farther from their goals will experience more resistance than those who are closer.
What makes this interesting is that many people use this as an excuse not to achieve what they truly want in life. They'll say things like "I don't want to put in the work." or "I don't want to lose."
What's ironic about this is that many people only think like this after they've been able to achieve something, but are still unhappy. They use the mistakes and failures of others as a way of stopping themselves from achieving more. But once someone's been able to get what they want, it's easy for them to go further since they're more motivated and positive in life.
The key lies in using resistance as a way of motivating oneself. It's essentially a way of giving yourself what you want.
How to get over resistance
If you're one of those who wants to overcome this obstacle, then you need to know that resistance is your friend!
It will be your biggest competitor in life. You'll have to face it in order for you to succeed. It's like a wall that you have to climb or a mountain that you have to climb before reaching the top. Once at the top, it will easily crash down on your enemies as they watch in awe of how hard and difficult it was.
"There are no traffic jams on the extra mile." – Tim Ferriss
You can choose to look at resistance as a bad thing that stops you from getting what you want. But if you decide to look at it another way, then it will be your guide in life.
Every experience that you encounter is resistance incarnate. How you deal with these experiences will show who you really are.
"You have to get to the other side and look back." – Tim Ferriss
If you're dealt with resistance in one area of your life, it's a sign that you still have some other problems that need to be addressed. You will have suffered from this if your goals didn't come true.
You should be able to use these experiences as a way of learning and growing stronger. You should learn from it so that you can successfully deal with anything in life.
It's important to know that even if you're able to overcome all forms of resistance, there will still be things that won't work out 'right'. You just have to learn how to deal with these bad experiences. You have to quickly learn from your mistakes and move on.
"Don't try to win at life; instead, take a lesson from defeat." – Tim Ferriss
If you're ever having trouble dealing with any form of resistance, try looking at it as a way of guiding you towards success. As long as you've learned from your failures and have been able to use them as stepping stones, then you have no reason not to succeed!
You're only one step away from what you want in life so take it one step at a time. Don't be afraid of failure. The key lies in being able to look back on your life and see the progress that you've made.
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